Motherhood, motherhood. Where would this world be without motherhood and it's mothers? We are a backbone to what we call human existence and yet so many do not give it the credit it deserves. How many childless people have said, "Oh it must be nice to just stay home with the kids all day,"?? Are they NUTS?! They think it is an easy task, like we sit here while the kids play nicely so I can sip my starbucks frappucino and file my nails. Get a grip people.
I am a mother myself, expecting my third child due in October. Can I just tell you how "easy" it is to chase around an insanely active two-year-old running around after her even more insanely active seven-year-old brother sporting this basketball on my stomach? Oh yeah...totally easy. I cannot even tell you how many times a day I ask myself how my own mother did it and how in the world we turned out so well. She didn't ship us off to daycare so she could join the workforce. She was there for us. I realize with my mother out of town visiting friends for the next few weeks how even now, as an adult, I would truly be lost without her. How in the world did she handle us all so well? Her advice is the sweet nectar of life on occasion and I feel as though I could not survive without it.
I wish it were easier, being a mother. It's really hard. I am responsible for human life here. It is my "job" to see that they are raised properly...good morals, upstanding beliefs, understanding of right and wrong, proper manners, etc. That is a lot of pressure on both me and my husband. Then you teach your children all of these great things and BOOM!! here comes the outside world, waiting in the wings to try to open their eyes to crazy misconceptions and turn them into lemmings for the "real world." Then these wonderful beings you helped mold and create, now are filled with doubt and lack self confidence that they once had. Everyone criticizes how they were raised and if there are any problems it becomes "the mother's fault."
There is not a perfect way to raise your children. Why is is not recognized as hard work? There are days I am totally jealous watching my husband drive off to work to his kid-free 9-5 job. I am jealous of his adult interaction all day, his ability to take a 15 minute break or a lunch to just do whatever he wants. I am lucky I am getting these few precious minutes to write this stuff down while my daughter is taking a nap and my son is occupied with the Cartoon Network. There are moments where I just want to break down and cry and rip all my hair out; like this morning when all my 2-year-old daughter would do is scream. You look at her, she screams. You talk to her, she screams. You ask her to do something, she screams. I'm not talking she just screams for a second. I'm talking blood-curdling, top of her lungs for as long as she can banshee screaming. Do you know how loud that is?? It's amazing I have any ability to hear at all. I think it is time to invest in some ear plugs.
I suppose to end this rant, I will say this. I applaude the work force, but for the stay-at-home mothers of the world, I give you a standing ovation. We are all working together to raise the future of the world and without us....there would be no future.
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I too think stay at home Moms deserve a big hurray! It isn't easy, but it is the greatest. As a stay at home mom, I have seen this job go from being the only job for a woman with children, to being looked down upon, to starting to regain its position. It is pretty important to the future that our children get the best childhood they can.
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